Monday, February 8, 2010

Raising Boys

It has occurred to me recently that I am really "in for it" as a mother raising two feisty little boys. I come from a family with two girls. My sister and I read books, played with cabbage patch kids and took ballet class. We did well in school and never got in trouble. In fact, the only time I remember getting in trouble at all was once in fourth grade when I was supposed to be paying attention to a math lesson. Instead, in a highly uncharacteristic gesture fueled by my intense love of the holiday, I turned to my neighbor and asked her what she was going to be wearing that afternoon in the Halloween parade. The teacher caught me talking, marched me to the front of the room and made me write my name on the board. That was it. No further repercussions or repeat incidents. Even so, remembering back to this one moment still makes me white hot with shame over 25 years later.

So that brings us to the present. I have a growing sense that things are going to be a little different with Max and Henry. Today, for example, Max got in some pretty big trouble at preschool. He and his friend Mick took it upon themselves to sneak off to the bathroom together, overflow the sinks, and use up all of the soap and the paper towels. When I picked Max up from school, I had the distinct pleasure of being asked to step inside to "have a little talk" with his teacher. I've been the unhappy teacher on the other side of these sorts of conversations, and I can now say with authority, that it sucks even more to be the parent. I know, I know...You're probably thinking, "He's only three. Kids make mistakes!" To that I might respond, "Dear God, HE'S ONLY THREE! What kind of trouble is he going to be getting into a few years from now?!"

Then there are the injuries. This blog has already chronicled the myriad of fat lips, black eyes, lacerations requiring hospital trips, and other such injuries sustained by Max in Henry in their few short years of life. By contrast, I've never broken anything in my life and I've never been to the hospital for an injury.

Finally, there's the physical damage to the house. Perhaps my mom remembers differently, but I don't think that either Nicolle or I ever caused any sort of irreparable harm to our surroundings or our furniture. Max and Henry, on the other hand, have (in the past month alone), peeled the paint off of the bathroom door, gouged the wood floors in several locations, chipped paint off of the stairs with a toy wrench, and ruined two walls in their bedroom -- one with overzealous riding of the rocking chair and one by turning the humidifier up to full tropical-storm level during the middle of night.

So that's where I stand. My house is falling apart around me; my children are covered with bruises; I will never be able to look the preschool teacher in the eye again.

In other words, I'm the mother of two wonderful boys and I wouldn't change a thing.

Monday, February 1, 2010

Good Day, Bad Day


The Good:

Max pulled my Norton Anthology of English Poetry off of the shelf today and said, "Mommy, would you read this to me?" Music to an English major's ears! He liked William Carlos Williams. Shakespearean sonnets -- not so much. Also, he can now recite, "Tyger, Tyger burning bright/ In the forests of the night." Awesome!

The Bad:

Poor Henry has developed a 103 degree fever and keeps saying, "Mommy, I need you!" in the most desperate tone of voice. The poor little guy just wants me to hold him all of the time. Hopefully he'll be feeling better soon and the rest of us can avoid the plague...

Monday, January 25, 2010

"Rain, Rain, Go Away!"

Henry and Max (AKA the peanut-butter faces) sing a rainy-day classic:


Thursday, January 21, 2010

Where's Noah When You Need Him?

It's been like a biblical flood around here this week -- five straight days of rain, wind, hail, thunder and lightning. In fact, I really could have used an ark yesterday morning when I drove Max to preschool. Not having an ark handy, however, I had to settle for a 4-wheel-drive Subaru to navigate the rain-swollen streets.

The worst thing about the rain for a mother of two young boys is definitely being house bound. Max and Henry need to get outside and run around. It wouldn't be unusual for us on a "normal" day to go to the park once in the morning and once in the afternoon. So what do we do when nature screws up our plans? Well, we cry and have tantrums and abuse our brother or the cat and watch too much TV or refuse to watch TV. We get out all of our play dough or paints, make a huge mess, and then grow bored in five minutes. We beg to go outside to splash in the rain and then we cry when water gets on our faces or on our pants. In short -- we drive Mommy absolutely out of her mind (and, as Scott would tell you, that's a short trip).

The forecast shows more rain for today and tomorrow, but it is supposed to clear for the weekend. Already I'm envisioning a ray of golden sunlight breaking through the clouds and falling on the sodden play structure at the park. Cue the Angels. Hallelujah!!



Thursday, January 14, 2010

My Little Scientist

So, today at lunch Max asked me, "Can we put water in a cup and see what would happen if we put it in the freezer?" I was surprised and delighted by this unexpected show of scientific interest. Before you knew it, we had water turning into ice in the freezer and ice melting into water in the cat's dish. Max would check on both "experiments" every few minutes and report back on the progress. Having determined that water turns into ice, Max next asked to see what would happen with milk and with juice. The whole family enjoyed discussing the difference between liquids and solids, though I decided to leave discussions of water vapor for another day after I caught Scott showing a mystified Max diagrams he had drawn of hydrogen and oxygen and their chemical bonds. The kid is only three, Scott. Let's take it slow...


Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Happy New Year!

If anyone ever needed a brand new start, it's the Gerber family, so we toasted the new year with sparkling cider and then consumed copious amounts of chocolate cake. A sweet start, indeed!

Here's to brighter days ahead in 2010...




Friday, January 1, 2010

Good Times in Southern California

LaLone/Gruber/Landberg/Goldsmith Christmas


Henry -- The Rose among Thorns


The Men


The Women


Christmas Eve at Dodie's House (Is Max possessed?!)


Cousin Haley


Archetypal Christmas Photo (with two Jewish boys)


Mimi with her grandchildren and great grandchildren


To Sea World with Grandma Rhona and Dodie!


Dolphins


More Dolphins


Waiting for Shamu


Shamu and his Buddies


Tired after a Long Day


Lunch at the Beach in Del Mar


"Look at that wave, Mom!"


Collecting Rocks


Yes, they all got wet. Good job Uncle David and Daddy!


Throwing Rocks


Pillow Fort